Sarita Buer (00:00)
Hello, hello, and welcome back to Back to Here with Sarita, the new Manifesting Paradigm podcast. As always, very excited you're here with me today. And I always love having guests on my podcast because number one, it's amazing having conversations. Number two, I get to learn a lot. And number three, it's just a lot of fun. So I want to welcome my guest Stephanie here, Stephanie Zito.
Stephanie Zito (00:23)
Thank you, Sarita.
Sarita Buer (00:27)
Yay, I'm glad you're here and Stephanie actually
lives in the city that I was living in for 20 some years in San Diego. And here I am in a different city recording. So it was really cool when we first initially connected talking about San Diego. So Stephanie would love to, so you are intuitive business coach and today we'll be talking about manifestation, which I absolutely love and more specifically around.
Stephanie Zito (00:39)
Mm. Mm.
Mm-hmm.
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (00:53)
quantum and shifting timelines and your particular method that you use within your business and within your framework and the clients that you work with. So before we get into all of that, I would love to find out from you your little story about what has, how did you fall in love? This is a great question. How did you fall in love with manifesting?
Stephanie Zito (01:04)
you
Hmm.
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that's a great question. Probably it really hit me when β the contrast I had. I'm married now. We've got kids. We've been married like 15 years. But before that, I had just gotten into a situation relationship.
where I just kind of stopped believing in what was possible for me and I felt like I had to kind of settle with what was available. And so wrong person, wrong place, going after the wrong jobs, everything. I, yeah, put your hand up if you've been there too. Yeah, so I, and I just was not doing, I'm a really like.
Sarita Buer (01:49)
Been there. Yeah, been there.
Stephanie Zito (02:00)
happy person, right? But I was crying all the time and not sleeping well and I felt like I got a coach who helped me kind of come back to myself, come back to my inner knowing, even making decisions that didn't feel comfortable or didn't feel known, didn't feel secure, right? Like leaving that relationship didn't feel secure. What was next for me didn't feel known. But having the security of knowing that was the path, right? Having the trust.
Literally, I, you know how it works. Like I had that one person who was like, you can come stay with me in California, which is exactly where I wanted to live. And so I just said yes and drove cross country with whatever I could pack into my convertible at the time. And and that's where like like life just unfolded. It was like this. I call it like this manifesting loose like one thing after the other. got my dream job and I started my yoga teacher training and I met my
my now husband and this all happened between like August and January. And I hadn't even heard the term manifesting at that point, but then something kind of clicked in maybe, I don't know, a couple years later, even when manifesting became more of like a term or a word and I was like, that's what happened. So it really got me more interested in other points in my life where that had happened and how could we be more intentional about creating a life that feels like that, that is that?
Sarita Buer (03:05)
Wow.
wow. I didn't realize our stories were so similar. I didn't realize you were not originally from California. So I grew up in St. Louis, which is the city I'm in right now. And I did exactly what you did. After I graduated from college, I had that one friend whose family was transferring over to the dad was transferring over to San Diego where his brother was starting a business. And they already lived over there. And she asked me, hey, do you have plans after?
Stephanie Zito (03:36)
Mm-mm.
Sarita Buer (04:00)
college and I said of course like no I don't really have anything and she said why don't you come and live with my family I'll be there in a couple months and see how you like San Diego and I did the exact same thing I threw everything in my car that I owned drove out to San Diego never been there before started a whole new life so that's so cool that we have very aligned backstories
Stephanie Zito (04:17)
Mm.
That is so cool. Yeah. Yeah, we talk about San Diego. We know the same places and yeah, the same experiences. It's interesting. I think San Diego will do that to you. It's kind of how my husband appeared as well.
Sarita Buer (04:33)
That's so cool, small world. So with that
story, that sounds like it was, and I loved how you used the manifestation luge, it's just like one thing happens after another and you're just on this slide of life. And so with the work that you're doing now as an intuitive business coach, how did that lead into that part of your life? How did that lead into you doing what you're doing now?
Stephanie Zito (04:44)
Mm-hmm.
How did really understanding the scope of the manifesting lead into what I'm doing in my world now? Yeah, I think it taught me to β what it really feels like it looks like to lead an aligned life and to understand when we're deeper into our own intuition, even when we're getting.
Sarita Buer (05:02)
Yeah, how did... Yeah.
Stephanie Zito (05:18)
answers, we're getting decisions that don't feel comfortable or we're like, I don't really want to hear that. Or if I say no to this relationship, well, what's next? You we tend to choose that which is more comfortable, even if it's uncomfortable over that which is unknown.
Right? So I think, yeah, and I actually, the more I get into this intuition and manifesting, the more I really truly feel that our lives are really bringing us back to this place of trust. What we're here, one of our soul studies is really here to learn trust. Because the truth of it is, if we live in this world of pure potential, which we really do, right? If we believe we live in this pure potential, then that means there's a potential for everything. So the potential for us to be living
Sarita Buer (05:37)
true.
Stephanie Zito (06:06)
and fear is just as great as our potential to live in trust. And I truly believe that my mission or purpose is to help us to learn how to live in trust. And when I say this next piece, I say this, I used to feel maybe this is controversial, I wouldn't have said this exactly, but I grew up, a little sidebar, then I'll come to what I'm gonna say. I grew up Catholic and I really stepped away from that structure and whatnot.
different things, β but I really feel the closest I've ever been to God, the universe, than I ever have because it literally is the devotion to living in trust.
And when we live in trust, that's where we have the sheer possibility of what's available to us is even we are even more aligned with that than we ever could be. Then when we're living in the energies and I feel like energy is one of the most important things we can even talk about here. The energies of distrust, the energies of of of contraction, constriction, like less than I'm going to, you know, be miserly with my trust.
Right? Like that's the complete opposite of it. We make things so much slower and harder for ourselves because that can tend to be like the the mode that we kind of know. I mean, there's a lot of things happening in the planet. I don't know when there really hasn't been, but are distrustful energies that feel fearful. You look at the news. It's lot. That's a very like.
Sarita Buer (07:16)
Yeah.
Stephanie Zito (07:43)
base low level energy of manifesting, right? And we get into this higher levels, like where we're like aligned with our souls. We're in, we have to be in trust. What else is there?
Sarita Buer (07:47)
Yeah.
Mm-hmm. Yeah, the relationship with trust, that's been a huge, huge emphasis for me in my life. So I love that you bring that up. And that's something I know I love bringing to this podcast as a level of awareness for people that are newer to manifesting or into manifesting or even people that are, they feel they've accomplished things through manifesting or received things through manifesting.
I believe that trust is probably the most important component, clarity, trust, and like you said, energy. And trust is probably, I would say, the most challenging human part of the process for all of us. And I do want to note that, yes, there's a lot of stuff happening in the world constantly around us that causes distrust. But if we look back at like childhood and things like that, there's so much evidence
Stephanie Zito (08:40)
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (08:52)
and so many things that we've been conditioned to believe to be distrustful of people, experiences, circumstances. You know, that one thing that could have happened to us when we were like, maybe our first boyfriend did something when we were like, I don't know, 10 or 11 or something like that. And we've now led ourselves to believe that we distrust a certain type of person, right? So all these things can
Stephanie Zito (09:17)
Mm. Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (09:22)
accumulate over time to impact our ability to trust. So I love that you bringing that up because I just want to say for myself and for anyone that's listening as well, like it's not your fault that you're distrustful and have come from the energy of distrust. And once you bring that to awareness, that's when things can start to change. But oftentimes like we just don't realize that we are so distrusting and that is
Stephanie Zito (09:38)
Mm. Mm.
Sarita Buer (09:51)
the aspect of why we're having a hard time receiving and getting the thing we want.
Stephanie Zito (09:56)
If I were to create any class in high school, would be the class in failure. It would be failure 101 It would be like, let's go out and fail at a gajillion things. the person who fails the most is gonna get the biggest A. Because I feel like the whole, it's almost like how, we have this audacity to think that
Sarita Buer (10:04)
you
Nice.
Stephanie Zito (10:25)
We want this freedom, right? We want whatever is possible for us. We do things that are kind of great, like having a child. trust in general, we trust, like I've had two miscarriages, and yet we also trust that in general, we can just have a child. That seems kind of miraculous. We're just gonna do this miraculous thing, but we're like, oh yeah, are you having a kid? Okay, cool. We take it as so like,
I mean, you know, for anyone who's had a child as well, like I know what it felt like to hold my baby for the first time. And I was like, again, just in this place of awe, you know, that this had grew, this person grew.
Sarita Buer (11:07)
Yeah, it's human being.
Stephanie Zito (11:09)
Yeah, but also we look back, of course, like that's the whole, this to me is the soul study. What are we studying? We are like case studies in trusting. What is trusting? Trusting is being the universe. The universe is this quantum field where there's things that aren't even in existence yet that will come into existence that we don't even know about yet, right? Like you talk to my grandmother who was born in, you know, she's passed now, but when she was born in like the early 1900s, you think she thought they were going
going
to be actual airplanes. You think that she thought there'd be actual cell phones. Like you think that was, those were just like ridiculous at the time. 1900s you'd be like, that's insane. That's insanity. You're crazy, right? But if we have the audacity to dream, we also have to, alongside of that, have like the aliveness of like, you know what? That actually might not work out, but it's worth it enough for me to try.
and then I'm going to live in the present and that I'm not going to let that, that didn't work out, that boyfriend did betray me. That's not going to have to inform my today or my future.
Sarita Buer (12:16)
Wow, yeah, that's so powerful. Everything, when I think of inventions, that's such a great example of manifestation and manifesting is that everything quite literally starts in the mind and then becomes a reality, right? Like this, if you're watching this on YouTube, I'm holding up, right, AirPods. Someone had to dream this, Apple, obviously that was person, Apple, Steve Jobs, I don't know, I couldn't think of the name.
Stephanie Zito (12:32)
Mm.
Steve Jobs and yeah, you're fine.
We'll work together.
Sarita Buer (12:45)
Steve Jobs, right? Steve
Jobs, right? And so there was all that downloaded information became into reality, became a manifestation, became into our existence in this 3D β experience. And so that's so beautiful that we've got β things like inventions to remind us that everything does start in the mind and how powerful our mind is, how powerful our thought process is, how powerful it is, how we can actually
Stephanie Zito (12:58)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (13:14)
become, we are creators and we can create things with our minds, essentially.
Stephanie Zito (13:16)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Yeah, so I mean, really, you know, if you think about like we live on this planet, we live in the solar system, we live in what we could call the quantum field. If we imagine that this information, it exists in the quantum field. And one thing that I love that I've cracked into that I feel is able to help my clients accelerate so much quicker with their businesses, with β helping things manifest so quickly is because we're tapping into the quantum field. We're tapping into we can call it their Akashic records.
their souls knowing, where we're going to get information that's just so much more deep and so much more... β
you know, just personal to them that's going to help them to cut out the overthinking. It's going to help them to make that decision, even if it sounds crazy. I mean, the house that we're in now is a manifestation. You know, know, San Diego. We live in Southern California, San Diego, and we were fortunate enough to buy our house prior to this in like 2017. And it was a smaller house. San Diego is like 1300 square feet. It's not big. And with two kids who were growing up, we were like, oh, my gosh, we're on time.
of each other, you know, try to have a sleepover and our son is like, ah, it's a lot. So I wrote on this piece of paper.
some other things, including this house that I envisioned, right? And it had this yoga slash office space for me and office for my husband, more space for the kids to kind of span out nature behind us, which again, Southern California, it's not common to have like a big kind of open space behind you. Most people are kind of back to back with each other in general. And I'm not kidding you, I did not even say anything to my husband, right? And like he felt the vibes two weeks later, he's like,
We were not looking at houses at all. He's like, Stephanie, I saw this house.
We gotta go take a look at it. He's like, this is gonna go. We gotta do something. So we come, we take a look at it. And I will tell you, we are a great case study in manifesting and how we also kind of sabotage ourselves and got in our own way because we had that beautiful below 3 % interest rate. We had a great payment on that prior house. We were like, we could just cook long and just stay here and it's safe and it's easy. When this house we're in, you know, it costs more instead of
a bigger
interest rate and is it like, can we do this and is this crazy and are we nuts and you know, all the things come up, all the fears show up, right? So we actually backed out of this deal. Thank God for our amazing realtor who didn't give up on us, but we backed out and then my husband is like, no, we have to go. What are we doing? We have to go for it. So we kind of, we waffled, we did not stay in the trust. But what I found, the reason I'm saying this is that,
What happened along the way is, again, I mentioned I tend to be a pretty positive person. I tend to like live in the land of trust. And yet I was waking up and I was like nervous and I was waking up and I was, you know, feeling the tension in my body. And I said to myself, I love to be lit from within. This is like the luminary method, right? Lit from within living my life, lit from within. And I'm not feeling like that on a day to day basis, just over one decision. Right. So how can I live through this decision, live through the trust, live through making the
decision for our best and highest good and stay lit from within instead of instead of
you know, parallel universe being stressed and living in the land of stress and high cortisol and what ifs and not sleeping well at night, right? So, I mean, I'm my own case study and using my own techniques on myself to make decisions in our highest good. And the truth is, is that moving it helped. We did it. We're here and it helped me to skyrocket my business. The kids have an amazing space. We actually have a coyote run and like land right behind us, which is unusual.
Yeah, so, you know, I'm so, so glad we went for the expansion. We went for the trust instead of the contract contraction.
Sarita Buer (17:21)
I love that. Such a testimonial right there. And especially utilizing your own experience as proof for what's possible β when you do trust versus contracting and not trusting. Because that's essentially what's happening is when we're trusting, we're more open, we're surrendering, we're allowing. And then when we're not trusting, we're literally contracting. mean, you can see people with their body language when they're just distrusting of you. They just kind of hide behind.
Stephanie Zito (17:34)
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (17:50)
Stephanie, wanted to ask you, because you brought in a couple aspects of things and wanted to bring some more clarity to people listening. When we talk about, I know you brought in the Luminary Method, which I'm really excited to get into in a moment, but you have mentioned quantum field a couple times and just wanted for, yeah, I know what that is. And of course I have my own personal interpretation, but I would love to hear from you when you speak on the quantum field, when we talk about like quantum jumping, things like that.
Stephanie Zito (18:07)
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (18:19)
I think sometimes I still to this day still will automatically think about Back to the Future, right? The movie, like when we, and that was like my introduction to that as a kid was like, that's what they were essentially teaching us, like parallel universes and parallel timelines and like things that were just happening on different, on the quantum field. So that being said, would love to have your own personal explanation of what that is.
Stephanie Zito (18:27)
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (18:44)
And then we can go into the luminary method, which I would really love for you to share with everybody.
Stephanie Zito (18:48)
Yeah.
Great. Yeah. So I mean, you know, my explanation of, I'm not like some physicist saying this is just me saying this, but, but you know, my explanation is that we truly do live in, I think like our, you know, we, we're very used to very like dense, like very obvious things. Like this is a water bottle and
Sarita Buer (18:56)
know. know. However, yeah.
Stephanie Zito (19:10)
grass and we can all agree on these things, right? And yet we have to remind ourselves that, you know, it is sort of miraculous in a sense that as humans, like we are able to live here and we have created all these inventions and we're going to again create inventions in the future we don't even know about, right? So the quantum field really just is the spaciousness in which all things exist, including all thoughts, all ideas, all we could break it down to even all frequency.
all energies, right? And so β if we consider that we have the space in which all things exist, we might think of like the space of pure potential, then we have the potentiality for almost anything.
Sarita Buer (19:52)
Mm-hmm.
Stephanie Zito (19:55)
which then could bring us to the idea that we could have different timelines. In fact, some might say that we have different timelines that exist right now and that you could jump from one timeline to the next. If you've ever had your life change really quickly, like for me going down that manifestation luge.
I could have stayed on the timeline where I stayed living in Kentucky, even if I had left that boyfriend at the time and I would have, you know, maybe been wearing a suit, working a corporate job. I don't know. I'm very grateful I did not choose that timeline, but I could have made different decisions like sliding doors, parallel universes, Freaky Friday, you know, and then I'd be living that. I'd be living that reality, you know. I chose in favor of the leap and it landed me here. β
You know, when things can happen very quickly, it's picture that, and I actually have a of a meditation experience on this where you picture your timeline, picture that your timeline where the things that you desire, they actually exist, right? The job that you really want, the money you wanna make, hey, maybe you're not working. Like, whatever that is, like the timeline exists. If you trusted that that was inevitable.
What would you do now? How would you feel now? I'll bet you'd relax a lot more. I bet you would more easily take certain actions with trust towards that, right? At the same time, inevitably in the field of pure potential, anything could happen. The stuff that you don't want could happen too, right?
I don't really wanna entertain that stuff too much, but when we can identify that stuff and say, if I've got timeline A, where this stuff actually works out, and then I've got timeline B, where the bad stuff happens, if we just acknowledge timeline B exists, and we picture it as a timeline, but we're like, you know what, I'm not gonna dip my energy down in there. I'm gonna make choices in favor of timeline A, right?
Sarita Buer (21:28)
So true.
Stephanie Zito (21:52)
then we create that inevitability. We become more open. We open our eyes. We open our field to the resources, the potential that's available to us. I think at the same time, I think of some people who want to manifest things like getting their ex back, for example. I'll look on some manifestation groups and it's like, I want to get my ex back and I'm using this technique. Well, the truth is that perhaps it is in our highest and best good to not get that ex back.
what we're really desiring in the thought of getting that ex back is the feeling of unconditional love, the feeling of what it's like to be someone, the memory of the good times. And yet the truth is is that that may not be in our best and highest timeline. So if we're not getting something that we want, maybe it is actually working in our favor, we just don't know it yet.
Sarita Buer (22:41)
protection.
Stephanie Zito (22:43)
Yeah, like if
this house hadn't worked out, I wouldn't think twice about it. I would just go on my timeline and make the next best thing happen, you know? But when again, in Kentucky, like I could not get hired and I've got degrees. Like I'm a pretty smart person. Like no one would hire me. I couldn't get a job and I'm so great. I mean, I had work. had other work supporting me, but I'm so grateful.
But because I couldn't get hired, it just like, I'd had no more tethers and ties. It would have been one more thing to keep me there, right? So those things that, the nose, the red lights, like thank you so much. Thank you so much for that not working out.
Sarita Buer (23:23)
I agree. Direct or what is it? Protection is redirection, I think is the expression that I've heard. Protection is redirection, which is so true because I've had circumstances occur where there's something that I felt like I really want. So for example, I was working in the corporate world in insurance for a very long time, reporting, going to an office, cubicle life, the whole thing.
Stephanie Zito (23:31)
Mmm, mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (23:51)
That led to a lot of different things. But what I thought that I wanted, again, and this was like the ingrained belief that I thought that getting a promotion and getting more money and like getting the title somehow would bring me some level of like success and accomplishment and like all these things, right? So I kept going for supervisor positions over and over again. And I did it a couple different, a couple different insurance companies and nothing seemed to come to fruition.
Stephanie Zito (24:06)
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (24:21)
And I realized after, this was quite a while after I ended up leaving the cubicle lifestyle and all that stuff was that I wasn't meant to be a supervisor because I wasn't meant to do what I was doing forever, right? Like I was meant to be podcasting and traveling and doing what I'm living now, right? Like living the lifestyle that I live now, which is so much more aligned authentically for me because there was a lot of different things that were going on.
Stephanie Zito (24:36)
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (24:48)
that manifested into my body that were sign saying like, this is not the life that you should be living. So for that reason, that's such a great example as well. β Alongside yours that there is direction mis- or excuse me, that protection is a way of redirecting us to the thing that we actually do really want. And I also wanted to add this, and thank you so much for explaining the quantum f-
Stephanie Zito (25:08)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (25:17)
field, right? The quantum area, the area of possibility. I had somebody call this a long time ago. They called it the quantum playing field. And I was like, oh, I love that. Because essentially, you are literally playing with the energies that are out there and seeing what it is that you can create. We are our own little artist and creator with everything, again, with that pure potential possibility that's out there. It's just kind of like, what do I create today?
Stephanie Zito (25:26)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. β
Mm. Mm-hmm. Mm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm.
Yeah, right. Exactly. It's like really kind of delightful, you know, and I think this kind of brings me back to this luminary method for manifesting, because I think one of the most important things is our belief, right? And β many times what kind of trips us up is just that we're having a hard time believing it to be true. We're having a hard time believing that it's possible. We're in fear over belief. So how can we kind of like rewire those beliefs? Really, the first step is getting
just absolutely clear and owning what it is we really want, even if it scares us, even if we don't. But usually what will happen is we'll get it and then we're like, well, I don't know how. Right. So don't if you don't even worry about the how yet. And we just stick with the what?
Just start with absolute, just get the clarity. And a lot of times we'll know that clarity because we'll feel it in our bodies. We'll know when something might scare us, but we get that spark, we get that light within, we get that yes, we get that possibility before the mind wants to tell us all the reasons why it's not possible and it's too hard and how dare you and who are you to do this and all the things that, or what if you succeed? What if you actually do it?
Like all the fears, right? Yeah.
Sarita Buer (27:04)
All that talk, internal talk, yeah.
Stephanie Zito (27:07)
So typically what'll happen is when we get that clarity, we get the stretch, we get the stretch that life is like stretching us into, which we're going to grow into. There's going to be some ways of being, there's going to be some older self that's been real comfortable that we're not gonna take with us. It just doesn't vibe, it doesn't exist at this next thing, at this next relationship, at this next level of income, at this next level of freedom. So we're going to let it go. And that's where we do our clearing.
Right? We got to clear something out. Something will rise to the surface to clear out. It might rise to the surface as sabotage, like we were with our house. It might rise to the surface as a worry or as like overthinking or as fears or as what ifs. Right? So.
I love using hypnosis and I've sort of created this method of quantum soul hypnosis to help us to rewire those beliefs or rewire our energy at a really deep level. So.
we can have our beliefs be in alignment with our clarity, with our desire. We can have our trust be in alignment, right? So it helps us to kind of β let the subconscious work with us. The subconscious wants to keep us safe. And if it thinks that safe equals staying exactly where we are and not getting the promotion, staying in the bad relationship, right? It'll just like be like, let's cook along. Why would we change this? We're safe.
subconscious can...
entertain that it's not only safe to get the raise, it's not only safe to leave the relationship, it's not only safe, it's beneficial. It's going to make life even better when it can get on board with that. Then it's going to unlock our beliefs, our actions, right? Our emotional connection with what we're doing. So that opens our field even greater to manifestations flowing in much quicker. And we're not going to miss them, sabotage them, because we're open to them.
Sarita Buer (29:11)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, I love that the foundational, the very foundational subconscious change. My last podcast episode, I was definitely talking about the subconscious and how it doesn't keep up with your vision board. It's not doing the 369 method. Like it's not, it's not on board with any of that. It hears something. If you're speaking affirmations or however you are with visualizations, that kind of stuff, like it's...
It hears that and then it's like a defense mechanism in a way like, oh, that's unsafe or that's just like not our normal, like our thermostat, right? was just, I, right before we did this, uh, our podcast recording, I went and changed the thermostat in here because I had the heat blasting cause it was so cold. And then it's a little bit warmer in the day now as we're progressing in the day. So I turned it down a couple of degrees and I just got to thinking, I was like, you know, that's what I feel like our nervous system and our subconscious is like where we have this.
Stephanie Zito (29:47)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (30:10)
particular barometer that's kind of set and that barometer can be changed, right? As easily as like I did, which was like pushing a couple buttons to make it hotter, make it colder. And that's essentially what we're doing when you're doing hypnosis and when you're doing things where you're working with the subconscious in tandem with the more conscious work as you're saying, the clarity work and all that. Because that's very important. I think that's where a lot of people kind of get
Stephanie Zito (30:15)
Mm-hmm.
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (30:38)
off on was like clarity stuff or they're like, I want this, but do you really want this or did like tick tock tell you you wanted that or did a manifestation coach tell you you wanted that or a mindset coach tell you you wanted that or maybe an Instagram post made you feel like you wanted that, but not really. So, β yeah, I just wanted to kind of bring in that as an example when it comes to our subconscious, because that's such a important factor and I love that. So with a luminary method, you said clarity.
Stephanie Zito (30:45)
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (31:07)
And then there's the subconscious clearing work you were saying, or the clearing work and then the subconscious work.
Stephanie Zito (31:13)
Yeah, I think it's embodied within the clearing, right? So, β typically once we get our clarity, and that's where clearing can help too, because we might say, talk to someone who...
Sarita Buer (31:17)
Gotcha.
Stephanie Zito (31:28)
they actually wanted to do really well in insurance, right? And they made whatever, I don't know, whichever one it was, but they just didn't, they felt a little deflated. They were like, oh, that's it? Like they did it, they made it, they hit it. And then they were like, oh, that's it? Because what they actually wanted to manifest was probably like a feeling of pride within. They wanted to feel, it goes back to childhood and being seen by their father, right? Being like valued, being validated. So, you know, we could short circuit a lot of this stuff.
Sarita Buer (31:51)
Fascinating.
Stephanie Zito (31:58)
you know, actually go after the things we really want in life because it's not about what someone else is saying or what someone else is thinking. But when we get that clarity, then we can dive into what's beneath the surface, right? β And in terms of manifesting, there's like these five levels of manifesting, right? And so the lowest level is the level of fear. It's like fear-based manifesting. It's competition. It's β I gotta fight for it. I gotta work really hard, right? It's I'm alone.
Sarita Buer (32:27)
Mm-hmm.
Stephanie Zito (32:27)
There's no universe helping me. The next level is the level of the mind. It's where we're like, well, if I do 369 method right, it'll work. If I say my affirmation's correct enough, but it's like the mind trying to control it. Again, what are we doing? We're releasing control step by step. that third.
Sarita Buer (32:30)
Yeah.
I like calling that
ego-based manifesting. β
Stephanie Zito (32:48)
You go, yeah, right. You go best manifesting.
So now we're getting into like soul level manifesting. Soul is like, I'm going to listen to something deeper. I'm going to listen to like the deeper essence. That's also where we're going to find our deepest healing, our soul studies. Right. So when we're kind of in conjunction with our soul, I might be guided soul led. In fact, even beyond that channeled to do this work in the world. β
Does it feel easy like every single moment of the day? Like no, I mean I'm human. I've gone through a lot of up levels β as I've increased my business, as I've increased my income. You we increase visibility. We're gonna bump up against things that maybe are β triggers or traumas from childhood. It could be things that we don't even think it's from childhood. It's stuff that happened like in a past life. So.
That's why being able to do that deeper inner work in that clearing, we can do it through hypnosis where we're working with the subconscious, getting the subconscious on board. We can do it through, as we talk about quantum field, I I mentioned the Akashic Records. If that's new for anyone, it's this idea that our soul has this entire library, picture this beautiful library with information for your soul's journey. β
And most of the time it's not gonna be like, what month am I meeting my soul mate? It's gonna be more like, show me the path towards β meeting the love of my life. Show me what I'm meant to know. Many times what you're going to understand is perhaps like understanding yourself even more deeply or what you need to let go of or release in order to be on that frequency, be on that plane to meet that person. β
It's fascinating the information, the deep healing that comes through. And again, this is what helps us to move quicker. We don't have to like stay in this one part of the brain that wants to like think about it. Not everything's going to be solved there. Again, this is the place where I believe these inventions are coming through, right? They're kind of channeled. They're coming from something outside of from someone.
Sarita Buer (34:59)
Yeah, so beautiful. That's so true. I'm just kind of reflecting back on the different levels and it just almost follows my own personal experience with my manifesting journey, I would say, when I was first introduced to manifesting. And it was very interesting because it was so new to me. I have not relayed this to anybody, so bear with me as I'm articulating this. But I feel like when I first commenced into...
Stephanie Zito (35:12)
Mm.
Sarita Buer (35:27)
the knowledgeable aspect of manifesting. that was around like just about COVID time, 2019, 2020 was just about the time that I started hearing manifesting and like law of attraction and things like that. And I remember because it was such a plot twist in my life and being like, oh my gosh, things start to make sense. I somehow had like what we would in more human terms say, beginner's luck.
with getting certain things very quickly. And I think it was because I changed the trajectory so drastically, kind of like the timeline jump, because I chose to start to believe that. And then as things started picking up, then it was like, felt like I was just kind of at this, I felt like I'd hit a glass ceiling for a long time. And I was like, my god, everybody around me is manifesting this and that. I had major comparisonitis.
Stephanie Zito (35:59)
you
Hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (36:25)
And so I realized a lot of it had to do with the manifesting from the conscious mind or I think that was the level where I was saying the ego mind, right? Because I was in the thought of this manifestation coach or this thought leader has life this way and that's what I want. then blah, blah, blah. So was like, was being thrown all these like ideas and images. This happens all the time to us, right? And movies and...
Stephanie Zito (36:33)
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (36:53)
and entertainment and things like that, we have this perception β that like the nice car and like the nice handbags and not that those things aren't nice is just like, that's not really what I essentially really, really wanted. I wanted more of a freedom lifestyle, right? And like, for me, freedom, I had to really get clear again to your first step on the luminary method is like, I had to get really clear on like what it was that I really wanted. Like you were saying that that
Stephanie Zito (37:09)
you
Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (37:22)
person that you were working β with the insurance, he was like, yeah, whatever, I got this amount of money. That's not what's making me happy. Essentially, it was something so much deeper that he wanted. For me, was like I was projected this idea of what freedom looked like. It was the nice handbags and nice home and the nice all these things. And essentially, it's not what I really craved. I wanted something more defined with, aligned with Sarita and what felt good to me.
Stephanie Zito (37:25)
Hmm.
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Mmm.
Sarita Buer (37:52)
Yeah, that clarity aspect was really helpful. And then from there, I saw things starting to momentarily like actually move forward.
Stephanie Zito (37:52)
Yeah.
Hmm,
beautiful. Yes, exactly. That's exactly at that alignment. And then that's when you can really get into. We can call like co-creation, right? Co-creation with the universe is I'm not forcing it. I'm not doing it all on my own. I'm aware that I am taking action and kind of the universe is like rising up to meet me. This is where we get these like amazing people that show up in right time and we're like.
wait, what, this is an opportunity you're offering to me? Or, you know, I've had women who they are in these really toxic workplaces and they're trying to decide, do I stay with it, do I get my retirement, or do I just leave because I can't handle it? And through this process, they get, I don't, I'm not gonna make their decision for them, but they get their decision, they may clear out some fears, and then boom, they have a decision, I'm leaving. And like, no, I would kid you not, like this happens several times the exact same day that they,
send in their resignation and people are like, well, what are you going to do? And they're like, well, I don't have a job lined up. They're like, how could you do that? And then they literally receive like a dream job offer that exact same day, like better pay, better this, better that. I've also had β one of my clients. I know.
Sarita Buer (39:13)
Wow, chills. I love stories like that.
Stephanie Zito (39:16)
So
this one, she again, working with the intuitive space, the Akashic space, she knew the exact date she was meant to send in her resignation. And I kid you not, she sends it, she tells everyone I'm leaving, they're like, well, you don't have anything lined up, what are you doing? And that exact day, she got this offer. It looks like it's out of the blue, but I really do feel like in co-creating with the universe, we have to give the universe our Starbucks order through the drive-through.
and then they can deliver it. So many times they're just waiting for our readiness, waiting for our energetic shift in order to deliver it. Otherwise, we might even pass it by.
Sarita Buer (39:49)
So true.
Yep.
Mm-hmm. So true. And I mean, I've seen that happen before from my own personal experience with like, I'm just gonna, some of the men that I've attracted into my life after my eight year relationship, like they were great. And I was like, well, you're not ready for me apparently. So like, you're the one who probably, or I knew from one in particular was like, this is what I want. I have a list, Boba, all these things. And I'm like, right here, you know?
Stephanie Zito (40:25)
Yeah, here we are. β
Sarita Buer (40:26)
And it just completely, right, it wasn't open to receiving that. So it was like, well, you know, here I am driving off. that's, that's
an ex it can totally happen. Right. And the universe is really, you're so right. It's so cute. I really liked that example about the Starbucks order, but, I've used like Amazon is kind of the example. It's kind of like you order on Amazon, right? You click the boxes, blah, blah, you order it. It's like,
Stephanie Zito (40:42)
β Yes!
Sarita Buer (40:50)
You're not on Amazon every five minutes and being like, where's my order? Where's my order? Right? You trust that it's actually going to be delivered at your door. Same thing with this, where it's like you need to make the actual darn order to be able to receive the thing that you desire. So stories, that's really cool. It gives me chills.
Stephanie Zito (40:55)
Right. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
good, exactly. Yeah, I mean I think of other things that have occurred too. β I had this idea at one point, I really wanted to work for a retreat or like, wouldn't it be great to work in a beautiful hotel and then literally I got this opportunity. My friend who worked at a retreat β put my name in for something and then boom, there I was.
And the truth is, is that I didn't really start out at the highest pay. I didn't start out with the most hours, but I started. I didn't say, no, this isn't exactly what I ordered. Like, no, I got my foot in the door and then it blossomed into this beautiful position that I had in the timing that was beautifully orchestrated for me. And then when that, you know, when that kind of shifted and ended, it was also perfect timing. I was holding onto it. β It wound up, the retreat wound up moving and then they wound up.
closing, was their own choice that they made. But β for me, I was kind of holding onto it β like a security blanket because I started my coaching business and it was keeping me from going full time in my coaching business, right? Because I have time. β But when it completely ended and I went full time in my coaching, that's what helped me take off. I I made more money in my own coaching business than I ever did working for something else that...
was beautiful, it helped me develop myself, it helped me develop my workshops and my programs and my offers, and for me it was right time β when it shifted. So sometimes we hold onto things a little, I definitely can do that, wanna hold onto things beyond their time because it's like a little security blanket. So just being aware of that even is really helpful.
Sarita Buer (42:49)
Totally.
Yeah, like Linus from the peanuts. Totally. Yeah, and holding onto things that obviously you've outgrown or ready to move on from. there. Been there. Done that very much. So with the Luminary Method, thank you so much for sharing that process. Was there another step after that, or was you sharing? OK, that's what I thought. Right.
Stephanie Zito (42:54)
Yeah, yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Mmm.
really it's these three steps. It's really having your clarity, getting super clear
about what it is that you desire, what emotion is it fulfilling even. And then the second piece is knowing that typically when we're going to stretch, we're going to grow, there's going to be something that wants to come up that you're not going to take with you when you're elevating into this light, this place of feeling lit from within.
There's something that's going to leave some shadow side, some dark side, something that maybe has been painful that we are going to meet. I know personally, I'm aware as I upgrade, I probably will meet some other things that will show up, right? I won't even know until I get there exactly what they will be, but this past year and a half, I've gone through two iterations of this in my own upleveling in my business.
And β I'm a different person now. I can feel it in my bones and even who I was like six months ago. I think when we, instead of trying to avoid that or think that it's gonna be bad or wrong, like get excited, like, my gosh, it's showing up. my gosh, I'm sabotaging myself. this means I'm up leveling. So the tools of hypnosis, the tools of utilizing the akashic records for clearing, for deep knowing, for wisdom, for clearing are.
beautiful ways to help clear that space, to help clear that out. So we can be in this lit space, this illuminated space to now dance with the universe, co-create with the universe, move quicker with the universe with trust.
Sarita Buer (44:42)
β I love the reframe of the self-sabotage as such a great opportunity for moving through and clearing. That's so true. And like you were saying, it is oftentimes an indicator that your desired result is just around the corner, literally, like around the corner. So such a reconfirmation and so empowering too. I really love that process because it is very empowering because you realize that
Stephanie Zito (44:51)
Hmm.
Pretty much, Mm-hmm.
Sarita Buer (45:11)
You have everything that you need right within you, right? And you get to play with the quantum field, the quantum playing field, as we were saying, and co-create with the universe on this very magical level. Of course, everything's scientific, which I bring a lot into the podcast, but also from the Woo perspective, it is very magical and fun to go through this process. And of course, things will come forth. We just mentioned the self-sabotage and other aspects of it.
Stephanie Zito (45:15)
Mmm.
Hmm.
you
Sarita Buer (45:41)
I really love that process now. Is this something β that you share within your business coaching? How can people find you and learn more about this, possibly work with you? Tell us all your deets.
Stephanie Zito (45:48)
Hmm.
For sure, yeah, a great place to start is I run a mastermind, it's our manifesting mastery, and we work as a group through these areas. We work through the clarity, the clearing, the co-creation, we go into the Akashic Records. It's very fun, there's opportunities to meet with me one-on-one as well to have personalized hypnosis or personalized Akashic Records. And for someone who's wanting to go deeper, then I have my luminary.
package my luminary process. So that's for someone who really is ready for like that next big jump. Like they're excited about it. They're ready to live in that space of lit from within. They want to go further faster and they'd like that kind of bespoke one-on-one experience. So those are a couple ways of working with me and I definitely have you might have it written down to like a free opportunity to kind of come into my world and experience some of this.
So I'm like forgetting what I even offered. If you have it written down or I'll just offer something. Okay.
Sarita Buer (46:51)
Yes.
it's okay. I don't have it written down, I forgot,
but we can definitely put whatever β you have in our show notes and we'll have that below for anybody that wants to connect with Stephanie. β That will allow you to get the free little offering gift and then also social media handles, where can people find you on via social media.
Stephanie Zito (47:17)
For sure, Facebook is a great place. I'm Steph Zito on Facebook. I think when I first got on Facebook, I came in as Steph, that's my nickname. People call me Steph, so Steph Zito on Facebook, or just Stephanie Zito on Instagram. And usually, what I probably gave you is I have a wealth bundle. So it is a really beautiful, yeah, it's a really beautiful bundle that I usually sell, but I have a code for you to use to get it for free. β
Sarita Buer (47:36)
I think that's what it was.
Stephanie Zito (47:44)
And it actually has within it this manifesting on a new timeline. It has a hypnosis for wealth and some other really cool processes to utilize to boost your expansiveness. So to me, wealth involves our wealth and our health and our love relationships and our money and our finances. So you can utilize it for any of those areas.
Sarita Buer (48:07)
I love that. And I'm going to grab that too, because
that sounds right up my alley. So thank you so much, Stephanie, for this beautiful conversation, this very enlightening, luminary conversation, where it's such a good reminder that we have this pure potential within us. And also it's like out there as well. The potential is out there and within us. And we get to co-create with this amazing process of with the universe and ourselves.
Stephanie Zito (48:11)
Good.
Hmm.
Sarita Buer (48:35)
So thank you so much again. could continue talking to you about this because I love talking to anybody who loves manifestation as well. And it sounds like you do because you have a whole mastermind around it. Awesome. Well, beautiful. Everybody will see you next time in our next episode. And as always, keep being the amazing you that you are. Take care.
Stephanie Zito (48:43)
My pleasure. My pleasure, anytime.
