Sarita Buer (00:00)
Hey you, welcome back to Back to Here with Sarita, the new Manifesting Paradigm podcast. As always, I'm very excited that you're here with me today. And if you are watching this or catching this on YouTube, I do want to apologize for the terrible lighting that I have on this video. I'm staying in Georgia on the beach. And the last few days, it's been very, very stormy and overcast.
as I'm recording this it's It's midday and it's still pretty dark outside.
as you may know, I live out of my car nomadically, traveling from place to place. But I've been noticing, staying in different homes, different places, that lighting is definitely different wherever I record.
we are working with the circumstances of what we have. And traveling nomadically is my new lifestyle.
If you've been following me on social media or if you've been in my world for a while, you know that I am completely 100 % nomadic. And that started back in May. So we are officially
I say we because you are in my community here on this podcast and on my social media. I definitely value you as a listener, as a watcher and somebody who supports the business and supporting you in your
manifestation journey. And so we are three months in officially. The 90 day mark was August 1st,
I have learned quite a few things since I've been on the road these last three months. the purpose of this
episode is to relate to you the five lessons that I have personally learned on this nomadic journey
I'll be referencing some of the things that I've been thinking about some of the things that I've been mulling over Things that have come to fruition things I've been working through
all that. And hopefully this will help you relate to real life circumstances. The purpose of this podcast really is to help support you on your healing, self-love and manifestation journey. And so when I share with you lessons that I personally have gone through and have learned, my hopes is that you will find your within the experiences that I'm sharing with you.
So let's go ahead and dive in.
Lesson one that I have learned in the last 90 days is home is a frequency. It is not a location. So when we think of a home, we traditionally think of a place that has shelter, that has four walls, that has a roof over ahead. And even though so many of us have heard the expression, home is where the heart is, there is a new definition of home that I've encountered over the last
90 days and this isn't actually new for me. I have changed homes frequently in the past and so for those of you who have been around my community you know that I first started my whole journey in general of humaneness in El Salvador and I was adopted at three years old so I left birthland home country at three not by choice that was through international adoption.
I was raised in St. Louis, Missouri for, 18 years. And then I moved to San Diego, California, and I lived there for about 20 years. When I was living in San Diego, I moved places frequently. I lived in close to five to six different places during those 20 some years. So of course, I settled in to locations and places and got acclimated to neighborhoods and all that.
And then over the course of the last year or so before I completely became nomadic, I was testing and trying this lifestyle by just kind of going from place to place within the San Diego and Southern California area. So the feeling of home has definitely changed and transitioned throughout my life, but much more so these last 90 days. And I've realized that I've been able to redefine what home is.
And through that, I really have come to understand that home is where the heart is, and it is a frequency. So what you bring into your situation experience is your home base. If you know the name of this podcast, which I've said many, many times, is Back to Here, meaning back to center, back to the center place, back to the focus of your breath and your breathing, your life force.
who you are as a person, your frequency, your vibration. And so I realized that in going from place to place, that I would be bringing my home with me. That my groundedness within my own body, within who I am as a person, was so much more important than when I was sitting and staying in one place in San Diego because I lived by the beach for about
three plus years post my breakup relationship. I was able to develop a new baseline frequency, a new safety foundation for myself in my body post my breakup. And I did that because I was living in one place for a while. And diving deep into my self-care practices, my self-love journey.
my manifestation journey and all the things. And so that has created this foundational
feeling of home base because I had created it in my little nook and cranny in my bedroom. But then that all transitioned after I started my nomadic lifestyle and thank
goodness for those three and a half plus years where I was intentionally creating a safety foundation for myself within my body because it was so important when I commenced my nomadic lifestyle, realizing that my home base, my body, my frequency, my breath, you know, all the things that I've talked about in this podcast are really, really important because I kept transitioning homes over and over again. So I've come to the conclusion that yes,
Home is the sense of groundedness and peace that I feel within my body that I can bring to different homes, right? Physical homes where I'm staying in people's homes, where I'm staying in different zip codes. So essentially, yes, home is where the heart is, where the body is, where you feel grounded, where you are feeling at peace.
It is literally a frequency. So it's not a zip code, it's not a place, it's not an address, it's literally what you have within you. So home is a frequency and I take that wherever I go.
Lesson two is integration is the manifestation. When we really talk about integration, when we have huge changing experiences, experiences that really change us, just think about life circumstances that have occurred to you that have changed your world or uprooted or toppled over things.
It could be breakups. could be divorces. It could be a pet that passed away. It could be moving to a new country. It could be changing schools. It could be...
something that's going to change your circumstances and experiences from what you had considered normal or what you had considered your everyday. And we don't really talk about the integration that happens post that huge thing that changes in our life.
So relating this to manifestation, I think a lot of us get really, and I'm one of those people, get really caught up in the after effect of how we're going to feel when that manifestation hits us. So that's one of the things that I do recommend and I teach is how will you feel when you have that thing that you desire? Let's say you desire to manifest a new job. You applied for this new job. You want this new job.
And so part of the identity work or the self-concept work that I teach within the Bliss method and also with my one-on-one clients is becoming that identity, right? Becoming the version of yourself that truly believes that you already have that thing. And so oftentimes we get caught up in how we're going to feel once we receive that actual manifestation, when in reality,
we should be feeling that way now, right? Because it's the essence of our energy, of our frequency, our vibration that's going to bring in the manifestation with more ease. But then some of us get really obsessed. what it's going to be like. So it takes away from what I'm currently moving through or experiencing in the present moment.
Just think about when that's happened to you before. When you are really excited about something happening, but you're forgetting about what's happening right now in the moment. Or with anxiety, which anxiety is, is the fear of something that could potentially happen when it's not really happening right now. We create this scenario in our head of what could go wrong, but it's not happening at this moment.
When I say integration is the manifestation, when I was preparing for this trip, I had a lot of things that I had to check off my list of things to prepare for.
this journey, And so I had this anticipation and excitement of I can't wait till I'm on the road. And so certain things in my current life before I left were getting frustrating and annoying, situations and experiences where I would say to myself, I can't wait until I'm on the road and I don't have to deal with this anymore. And I don't have to face this problem anymore.
I wasn't thinking that conceptually, but it was more just a feeling of it'll be nice when I won't have to A, B, and C because I'll be on the road. And so I got caught up in the excitement of just being away, driving away into the abyss, leaving everything behind, not having to worry about anything. I was somewhat obsessed with the fireworks and the excitement.
of the manifestation that was literally just around the corner. I had it at my fingertips. I knew it was happening. And at the same time, I was not allowing myself to experience what was happening within me during that time frame. So when I commenced my nomadic lifestyle and I put everything in my car and I drove off,
There was a lot of mixed emotions that first week, really, because it didn't feel like it was actually here. It almost felt like, wow, this is my life right now. I can't believe this. It's so new, right? The whole newness was still there. Just like the honeymoon phase, if you've ever been in a relationship with somebody and you start dating and it's the honeymoon phase, that's the excitement.
And then it usually kind of starts wearing off. It's different in relationships and I'm not gonna relate that to my nomadic lifestyle, but it's similar in the way that it really started to wear off. And I started to realize, wow, this is my life now. Like, and all these fear questions and comments started coming into my brain. Like, wow, did I make the right choice?
What am I doing? What was I thinking? What's happening next? Like, where am I going? Where am going to stay? Like, my car breaks down and all these things, right, that I hadn't really necessarily thought about because I was so wrapped up in the excitement of what was happening. And on top of that as well, this is something that I think that a lot of people don't really remember when we transition and change into new environments.
And this, again, circles back to this identity level where we can change our environment. And yes, it does impact us in certain ways. But what is in the inside, our identity core, our frequency, is still going to be the same even when our environmental circumstances change. I think I've mentioned this before.
And this could be in one of the podcast episodes that I am sharing about my self love journey post my breakup, After I broke up my relationship,
I was still living with my ex for a very, very short period of time as I was trying to find a new place to live. And after I transitioned into a new home, I remember so clearly sitting on my floor with all my boxes around me and just being in a mess of tears and realizing what I thought would be a healing experience by leaving him, leaving the circumstance experience, the home life.
and starting anew and starting into a new home and I would feel liberated and I feel completely different and all the things would just be great. All of a sudden, like my life would be healed and everything would work out and my business would boom And in reality, it was not that at all. Quite specifically, I was feeling so dead, broken and sad inside. That version of me was still experiencing
what I was experiencing outside of the relationship. So even though my environmental circumstances changed and I moved from one home to another home, my identity core level was still very, very much the same. Same with this nomadic lifestyle. The things that I was choosing not to deal with in San Diego, the relationships and experiences, the identity core of Sarita was still the same. So environment changed.
Sarita is still the same. And being on the road and driving from place to place, I have many hours by myself in the car, listening to music, listening to an audio book, had a lot of time to reflect. And all those things that I was choosing to ignore while I was preparing and going through the process, right, and checking off all my list of things to do, I was not allowing myself to be present in the moment of what I was experiencing.
And I think I even remember kind of cognitively thinking to myself, I'll deal with those emotions later. Right now I have a to-do list I have people to visit before I leave and answer questions and prepare things. Has that ever happened to you before where you're like an emotion comes up and be like, I'll deal with that later. That's on the back burner. Right? Well, it'll come forth again. That's what happens with emotions.
As I transitioned into this nomadic lifestyle, a couple weeks in, it started to become Waterworks. If you remember, I did Kambo medicine. That was such a great way to cleanse and clear the slate for my new nomadic lifestyle. Whenever you do some type of plant medicine or any type of medicine journey or spiritual journey in general, the integration period is going to be the most important.
part of your journey. It really is. The actual process itself is really, really important. Even going through a coaching program or therapy, the integration part is the most important. My best friend is AA, and she's talked about this before. It's not just the meetings, but it's how you are relating and acting and integrating the practices and the teachings that you learn in your actual lifestyle. And that's the same thing.
that I realized that I was ignoring so much. And then of course, here comes all these emotions. so manifestation is not always about what's happening, like the actual action and the thing that we receive and the desired outcome. It actually can come in the form of peace. It can come in the form of
allowing those things to come forth because we were not allowing them to come forth before. So it's that beautiful transformation that can occur when we surrender and we allow. And sometimes, like in my circumstance, it was almost like it was a forced situation. It was being forced up. I had no other choice. I wasn't, haven't been with really anybody else.
been transitioning homes, I've had a lot of time by myself. And so it was a experience that needed to come forth for me. And so feeling that and feeling that integration, I truly believe is the manifestation itself, the integration process.
So this third lesson is one that I know for a fact you're going to relate to because this is such a big thing that we talk about in the personal development and the spiritual communities. And one of the biggest things that I've been learning in my 40s is that your energy is sacred currency. I heard somebody say your energy is like a pot of gold.
And when I heard this analogy, it really landed for me because it's like our energy is constantly in motion. Our energy, we get around people that take energy. When we are giving our energy to people, we need to fill up our energy as well. So our energy is a pot of gold and we get to choose that pot of gold. We get to choose who we are doling that pot of gold pieces out to.
So when I thought of that, I was like, wow, my energy really is sacred because gold is a very precious resource. So I didn't realize how much I was giving my energy to things, circumstances, and people in my 20s and in my 30s. When I started my self-care practices and my self-love journey, one of the biggest things that I came to,
to the conclusion this was something again that I've been sharing in my podcast episodes and I believe it is where I talk about my adoption and how I've outsourced my worth to people and that I've realized that as a moon and Pisces, I do this very frequently because moon and Pisces is a water, very watery sign, a very watery placement.
It's in my 11th house, which is all about the collective. And so when it comes to friends, when it comes to relationships, when it comes to group gatherings of sort, I have a very intuitive sense for people's emotions and feelings. And so naturally, my desire is to comfort them and make them feel better and to hold their emotions.
Pisces is the fish. It's the only sign of the water signs that has absolutely no shell. The crab has a shell, the scorpion has a shell, but a fish has no shell. So it's out there swimming around and really just kind of going with the flow of things. And so the flow of things, oftentimes for me in the past have been I hold other people's
energies, hold other people's feelings and emotions in such a depth away that I feel almost responsible for how they're going to react. I feel responsible for how they're going to feel and move through things. And so that has not served me because I have allowed myself the lack of boundaries in holding my own energy as being sacred.
is something that I've had to learn over and over and over again. And so I've had this belief for a while that maybe they'll love me and care for me and value me and respect me. And this isn't just men, this is friendships as well. As if I'm giving and loving and caring and just kind of throwing all my resources and energies all over them. And somehow I'll feel validated and loved and cared for. Right? And so I didn't realize how much
That was the case. And so the last four some years, three and half, four years post my breakup, it's been a rude awakening to learn about my frequency through my energy and valuing my energy as a very, very, very sacred resource. Okay, so I continue to learn that.
and then taking it to a new level, while I've been on my domestic and nomadic travels, I'd forgotten that when I go into people's homes, I can pick up on people's energies. So let's rewind a little bit. Our home again, right? It's a physical construction. This is like the first lesson I've learned, right? Home is where the heart is.
But then your home is also a sacred place. We're very tentative about whom we let into our home, right? That's the reason why so many people have security systems is because they want to preserve their home as a sacred space. A lot of people will have their homes cleaned.
they'll do things to make sure their home is fitting to their own energy type. Feng shui is important. Creating a space for themselves that's going to be very comforting to them, to their unique energy and their unique personality. And so when a stranger comes in, they bring in...
new energy, right? They bring in an energy that may not necessarily match the energy that is what they are creating. And so some people are not intentional about the energy that they have in their home, right? They may put things in certain places and construct it all nice and beautiful and it looks presenting to the eye. But again, whatever frequency that person who is living there
is carrying, it's going to be integrated into that domestic experience, right? So no matter what they're going through, they're going to be emulating that. And so there have been circumstances, luckily for me, where I've been able to meet the homeowner that I'm staying and taking care of their pet or taking care of their home. Sometimes I don't meet the homeowner.
But when I do meet the homeowner, I get to know them, as a person, and then it helps me understand them better and their situation with their pets or their home and things like that. And so as a outside energy source, I've realized that I need to be really intentional about cleansing and clearing the space of where I am choosing to stay for that period of time.
Most of the time I'm not staying in places more than like two and a half to three weeks so far. I would love to stay someplace for longer. But as it has been over the last 90 days, I've stayed probably my longest day has been almost three weeks. And that was in Austin, Texas. And so coming in again, relating to that moon in Pisces for myself being an intuitive person, you don't need to be a moon in Pisces to have any type of intuition. You can have your own intuitive sense, right?
How many times have you gone into a group of people and you're like, something's amiss or like something's happening or maybe you're feeling something that someone isn't saying, but just being an intuitive person and experiencing going into someone else's sacred space, realizing that there's some level of energy that is not your own, right?
This is a whole new experience when it comes to my energy being sacred currency because I realize with other people who have their home, they're emulating different experiences through the energy of their home.
So let's take this for example. When I was in Las Vegas, there was a very forward presenting beautiful home that I stayed in. It was immaculate. She had everything just nice and clean and beautiful pool, very forward presenting home. But when I was there and I got the joy of actually meeting her,
I had the sense that there was some sadness that had happened in the past. Like there was a grieving energy that was just oozing through the home. And as I started paying attention, I kept seeing pictures of a man and her together, assuming that they were husband and wife. And I was paying more attention and I saw a lot more pictures and I could feel
the energy of the home as kind of like a grieving place. There was this underlying feeling of grief. And in conversation and dialogue, finding out more about her, she let me to know that her husband had passed away during COVID because of COVID. And it was a very challenging experience.
He was in hospice. And so she was a widow in essence. And I felt that energy when I was there. was very potent for me. And again, it wasn't something that I conceptually understood, but I energetically felt. After she left and I stayed to take care of her pets, I did an energetic cleanse of myself and of the space.
And I realized from there, because I had stayed in quite a few homes before that, because this was my first outside of California stay that I had done on my nomadic travels. So I was really just โ probably about a couple of weeks in, like a month in. But before that, I had done many different stays, right? Remember I told you I was in Southern California and I just kind of was testing and trying the whole nomadic lifestyle.
I did that with my 30 day test and trial in Washington DC area when I was out there and end of December, early January, 2025. And I wasn't thinking about that. It just wasn't something I thought about even though I'm a very spiritual person and I would do it at home, in my home constantly. I would constantly burn sage and I would cleanse and clear my room. I would do it with my devices. I would do it to myself. When I was traveling, I didn't really like.
necessarily think about it so much. And just having that experience like made me remember this is really important for me to not only cleanse and clear the environment that I'm in, but also the home that I'm staying in and myself. Here's another example. When I was in Arizona and I stayed at a really, beautiful home outside of the Tucson area.
kind of in the Catalina mountain range. The minute I walked in and she was not there, like I did not get to meet her ahead of time. I got to meet her after the sit ended. We had an overlap of just a few hours that we were able to talk and chat. But before, when I walked into her home, I immediately felt a sense of peace and groundedness when I first walked in. She had done an immaculate job of
Creating a space and come to find out is a retreat center as well To make it a sacred space that felt comfortable and at ease and it's really interesting to may I add that that energy is Related through the pets that stay with their humans when you have an anxious animal And that just goes to show that most likely there's some anxiousness happening in
the whole dynamic of the home. We forget that pets are actually mirrors to us as well. They actually relay to us the energy that is happening in a circumstances situation. So with her, her pet was the most mellow animal I've ever come across. And it's because I know that she intentionally created a space that was really, really sacred and
calm for herself. And then of course meeting her it was like meeting a matriarchal grandmother, even though she was not that old. She was just about the same age as me. Her energy was so grounded and comforting and nurturing.
And it was exactly the energy that she was emulating in her home and her dog was reflecting. So these kind of things, when I think about how our energy is sacred, we think about What is it that we're creating in our homes? So it's a whole new level of energy is sacred in my experience, right? And so going into people's homes and realizing that this is really important.
that I get to double down on my protection and my cleansing because I'm subjecting myself to whatever energy is happening in that person's home, right? And whatever spirits, because I do believe in spirit guides, I do believe in energies that be, that stay in one place, and just remembering that I'm there to...
support and help the animal that I'm taking care of or the home, taking care of the home, and that I'm not there to harm, I'm not there to do anything that's gonna disrupt anything that is happening, and that I am also cleansing and clearing myself when I go into homes and cleansing and clearing the spaces, especially the places that I sleep, because that is definitely going to impact where you are.
Note to self, this is the lesson that I learned, right? It's not just about energy is sacred, but also that it's important when you do travel, that you do your cleansing rituals to help protect yourself and prepare yourself and maintain your own level of energy because again, your energy is a sacred resource.
The fourth lesson I learned is stillness reveals what hustle hides. This really relays back to my first lesson that I shared with you, but I'm gonna go a little bit deeper because this has to do with friendships and relationships and some of the things that I've been reviewing and working through and just mulling over these last three months. I've had a lot of time by myself these last 90 days.
when I'm in the car driving, it's like four to five hours sometimes driving from city to city I have a lot of time to reflect and think about the life that I had in San Diego.
Remember when I was saying how I got really wrapped up in the excitement of my trip and preparing for my trip. And I've known this for a while, right? I had the opportunity
to recreate my life over again. I had lived a life subjecting myself to the thoughts and beliefs of what society was expecting from me, a partner, a home, a nine to five job, the whole white picket fence that were sold really here in the United States. I was subjected to that and I really succumbed to that belief.
And so when I broke up with my ex and started to mull things over and got into my self-love and my manifestation process and really diving deep, I thought that I had a second chance in life, really. How can I create a lifestyle that is in congruency to my authenticity? How can I create something that's going to be the most loving and caring for me as a person? And freedom...
has been one of those things that is so important to me, right? So creating a lifestyle of freedom is not something that was done overnight. It was done very intentionally for a while. I've known for quite some time that I would be leaving San Diego and when I was preparing for that, there were a lot of people that started coming forward because I started to communicate on a mass
level saying hey, I'm leaving San Diego, I'm not going to be here anymore, I know I've been here for two decades and this is what's happening. All of a sudden, people wanted to come spend time with me and hang out and talk and get to know like why I was doing what I'm doing. And this part is... โ
I would have to say this particular portion of the episode is a little bit more challenging for me to relay and to admit. We understand, again, conceptually, that we outgrow relationships. We outgrow friendships. And I've had that happen before. I've had that happen where friendships just kind of die away. There's wasn't really an explanation. We just stopped talking to each other. And it's been OK in the past and it hasn't been so heartbreaking.
because some of those friendships were just there for the chapter. And I've been through many chapters in my life. And this particular chapter commencement and ending the chapter in San Diego was a lot more challenging. And I think because I have had a lot of friendship closures or relationship closures over the last four years.
So my circle of people that I call friends or people that I stay in connection with has gotten smaller and smaller and smaller. If you've known me for a while or been around me, I'm a very outgoing person. I've always had a lot of friends, even as a young child, my family, because they're very introverted. My family is extremely introverted. My mom's introverted. And the only person in my family that wasn't
quite that introverted was my uncle, whom I didn't really get to spend too much time with. But my grandparents and my mom would always say, we never have to worry about you because you never have a problem making friends wherever you go. So true, my mom would drop me off at daycare or preschool or wherever camp. I would have a friend within minutes, not a problem. It's never been a problem for me to meet people.
And so in my 20s in San Diego and even into my early 30s, I had a big circle of people I knew. I never had a problem finding somebody to do something with. And so my circle of friendships was really wide. But as I reflect back on it, many of those friendships, I would say over 90 % of those friendships,
We're very surface level. We would party together, we would hang out together, we would laugh together, but it wasn't anything with depth. And as I grew, and as I molded, and as I changed, and as I've gone through my healing journey and gone through all the things, especially when I was in my early 30s and I got into my relationship, and I was going through my health issues and realizing...
that I needed to take much better care of myself, I realized that the importance of going inward and learning more about who I am as a person was really important to me. And so when I thought of friendships I realized that I valued friendships of people that were actually just as interested
in who I am as a person as much as I'm interested as them as a person. Going back to my moon in Pisces, remember, I had such this feeling of responsibility for holding the space and the energy of the person that I was hanging out with or the people I was hanging out with. And a lot of times, yes, I came from the need to be validated and seen and loved. And that manifested into Sarita.
who was constantly being the one who was taking the action of checking in on people, finding out how people were doing, asking the questions, spending the time, getting in the car and going to them to hang out with them to make it as flexible for them, Me having the flexibility because I didn't have the kids or the significant other.
So it was me being really, really available for these people with the lack of boundaries again, and maintaining the friendship from a one-sided perspective.
I remember very, very well post my breakup, I felt really alone. I didn't have people checking in on me or coming to pick me up to take me places. At the time, I didn't have a car either. So it wasn't like I had a lot of freedom to be able to go places and do things. So I felt really stuck. And I would say very, very few people.
checked in on me to see how I was doing, even though those people have gone through breakups or divorces before themselves. And so that really left a sense of bitterness in my mouth towards friendships. And again, I tried to push it aside because I thought it's OK. People get busy with their lives. People are doing the things that they need to do. And that was the excuse that I kept making for my friendships.
in San Diego was, yeah, they're busy. People get busy with their lives. They don't really, like, they're just busy. They get busy, they can't respond. They have a lot of things on their plate. I get it. They have kids. Everyone gets other, blah, blah, blah, all these things. And although that's true, at the same time, it felt like, and it was, this is how it manifested, that I was the one responsible for maintaining the friendship and relationship.
And it got, it really wore me out. And it really made me sad that some of these people that I considered friends just had the lack of interest in getting to know me, who I am as a person, my business, my podcast, like all the things, my healing. And it just felt again, like a one-sided affair. And it was frustrating.
And it wasn't just friendships, was sometimes when I was dating people too, where I was putting in all the energy and effort. I definitely take ownership that often I was doing the energy and effort because I wanted to feel some sort of validation and completeness from friendships. And so when I left San Diego, I knew that there were certain friendships
that I would not be carrying with me into this next chapter. And that was very heartbreaking for me because I had spent a lot of time and energy cultivating these friendships. Again, that was me doing a lot of the work. And it was frustrating because I really, really craved, after my breakup and my relationship, one of the things that was the most biggest aha moment that I had.
that I was not receiving in my relationship dynamic for eight years was depth. I did not receive a lot of depth of getting to know my significant other partner. He was not really good about asking deep level questions. I was the one I was asking like profound deep level questions. He'd always give me a hard time about that. And it was frustrating because I felt like that person didn't really
care to get to know me on the deeper level. And then it was relaying to me again through some of my friendships. A lot of people didn't understand the importance of asking deep questions and getting to know, and not just the surface level conversation.
I think that's one of the reasons why I got really bored with certain friendships because it was just the same old mundane thing over and over again, drinking and laughing and cracking jokes. And as I healed, I just realized I wanted more out of friendships. I wanted friendships that the other person was cultivating depth as well. That I was looking again for depth in places where it was not available. And that's okay.
That's the part that was the hardest thing to accept as I've left San Diego and now been on this nomadic travel is that, yeah, we outgrow relationships and it hurts because a lot of effort has been put into relationships and friendships sometimes. And oftentimes we outgrow things. We outgrow communities. I outgrow San Diego. I outgrow things. And it's not anybody's fault.
It's not my fault. It's not their fault. It just is the evolution of what occurs when you do heal. I've heard this on TikTok before, and it's something that I want to reconstruct because I know the narrative can look like this. But the narrative is that it's lonely at the top, that the more you heal, the less friendships you have. Well, I'm on a mission, and that's why I've created
the bliss method a community where people who are going through similar circumstances like this can come together with other people that are craving healing and having deep conversations. It exists. It really does exist because I've cultivated with several friends of mine. And these are friends that have been on the same healing journey path as me.
and desire the same thing in me when it comes to friendships. They desire to have relationships where you are cultivating and watering each other, just like a garden. Like, look at your friendships as a garden. You want your friendships to blossom and bloom. I mean, you want your garden to blossom and bloom. You really do. Like, that's the beauty of it, is putting in the effort and seeing the fruit. And that's the same with friendship.
and relationship dynamics is the beauty of the manifestation of the efforts that you've done to prune and cultivate and weed and water, like all of it. I want friendships that are like that going forward. And so these last 90 days, it was a lot of grief, relief, and a lot of other emotions that I was feeling.
moving through, releasing the friendships that no longer serve me. Again, the stillness revealed what the hustle was hiding. The hustle of trying to hang out with people and spend time with people and still trying to maintain my own lifestyle and my own requirements and all the things. And then after leaving and moving on,
literally physically moving onto a new place, realizing that a lot of these friendships, a lot of these relationship dynamics that I had put a lot of energy and effort into over the years were just part of that chapter. And that chapter is closed and it's okay. It's okay to outgrow things. It's okay to move on. And with all that,
It's given me so much more clarity, which I'm so proud of. It's given me clarity on what I'm available for when it comes to relationships and friendships. I crave relationships that have a lot of depth. That I crave relationships where I can be my authentic self and crave relationships where that other person is going to be interested and really genuinely love and care.
for me as the person that I am, not the version of me that I was before, but growing along with me. That is what I've discovered in my solitude. And solitude can be the greatest teacher bringing forth what we were not necessarily allowing ourselves to receive and download when we're in the hustle.
Okay, last lesson. Lesson five is redefining success is a continual process. This really is an accumulation of all the things that I've shared already. But the adventure to find myself in this whole process, this nomadic lifestyle, ended up becoming something a lot bigger than just me trying to find myself and find a new place to live.
So this lifestyle, these last three and half, four years, learning about self love, starting to share about my manifestation story, all the things I've manifested, this is me putting in everything that I've learned into real time practice. That's why I say watch me manifest my way around the United States, because I am putting into practice day in and day out.
everything that I've learned thus far since I've been healing. And it's been a lot. I've been embracing protecting my energy, learning about friendships, letting go of friendships, embracing my emotions more openly, just learning to let go of what no longer serves me, creating new healthy habits and eating habits and exercise habits depending on where I'm actually living. For example,
where I'm staying might not necessarily have access to the gym membership that I have. So because my fitness is so important to me, finding ways in which to make sure to incorporate that into my life, also my eating habits, learning to buy groceries in bulk and
meal prep and sometimes I fall off my diet and that's okay and it's a lot less doable when it comes to being uprooted every like two to three weeks, right? Like things are just not going to be consistent. So learning the process to create consistency and success in my day to day.
is got to be really, really fluid, right? So when I was staying, and for most of you who are not nomadic, please let me know if you are a nomadic and like on this journey as well. I would love to hear from you. Like drop a comment in the podcast, if it's on YouTube, like say, hey, me too, or screenshot this episode in your stories and let me know, hey, Sarita, I'm nomadic as well. I totally relate to this. So for those of you that are staying in one place,
you over and over again, you create a foundation, a system that'll work for you because you are having the same, experience day in and day out, right? sometimes on the weekends, you're doing things differently or when you travel and you come back. But for the majority of people that are stationary, they can create a plan for success that's going to be available to them and consistent.
because they are staying in one place. For me, I've had to accept the fact that my success is going to be fluid. the way that I set up my days is not going to be as consistent as it was when I was living in San Diego for those 20 some years. So accepting the fact that it's okay
I'm not going to be able to eat the certain amount of calories or do my journaling that day. OK, let's renegotiate. What am I available for in the evening? OK, a hot bubble bath and that's it. Right. So the success that I've created for myself is really being tested and tried.
And it's been very interesting that I've been able to redefine what that is for myself. What I realized after being in the nomadic lifestyle for a while, because it was like really chaotic, it was like I was trying to attempt to implement what I had created for myself in San Diego into this nomadic lifestyle. And it was like putting a puzzle piece into a new puzzle piece that just wasn't fully fitting.
And it was like, I was forcing it. I'm like, this is not working, this is not working. And so it was just causing this chaos energy. And it was frustrating because I didn't understand why things were just not being supportive for me. And so it threw off a lot of different things. I feel like I yo-yo'd a lot with my diet and exercise just because I hadn't figured things out. And what I realized when I was in Santa Fe,
I remember just in avoidance energy, I would lay and stare up at the ceiling for days at a time. I mean, I still had my like work I had to do, right? The podcast, โ my nine to five job, the business coaching.
being coached, being part of a coaching program. But apart from that, like I would just lay and just lay up at the ceiling and let the pets run all over me when I was doing that and being in a lot of emotional turmoil and crying a lot and just being frustrated and just not understanding and having just a lot of, of emotion that came like flood works.
And it dawned on me about a couple days before I left New Mexico that I realized the importance of a foundational process for myself. I am the type of person, this is me talking, and this may not relate to anybody else, but we are human and humans are.
very habitual creatures. We are very circadian rhythm as well. Most of us, majority of us are sleeping during the night and up during the day and productive during the day. There are handful of us that are very nocturnal. But the majority of us are very within our cycle, in the cycle and the rhythm of Earth, light and dark or
week, day and weekend, right? And so for myself, I've realized as a young child to present day that I am the most productive when I have a foundational practice and schedule in place. And again, it does help me to not only be more productive, but also understand
what the momentum of the day is going to be like.
I think this comes from both my Aries rising and my Aries sun, both very masculine energies, but also the modern day warrior. The modern day warrior, a warrior in general needs to have a mission. It needs to have an outcome. It needs to have something it's fighting for. It needs to have purpose. And for me, I've noticed that I feel more of purpose and I feel
more grounded in my energy when I have routines. Those routines can change, but as long as I have some level of routine or intention for the day. I started asking myself a long time ago when I was going through a coaching program back in 2020, because our coach would ask us, what's the intention for the week? Drop your intention for the week. What's your intention for today?
And I got really accustomed to talking like that to myself. Okay, Sarita, what's the intention for the day? What's the intention for the week? What's the intention for the month? And having that really supported me in creating a foundational system that would help me back in San Diego. Once I got onto my nomadic travels, that all kind of went chaos, because I didn't really understand how it was all working out, but it dawned on me when I was in Santa Fe that I could address the same kind of
approach but in a different way. That I found that having a foundation for success was going to really help me to structure my days to be more successful. And in that, right, because we're balancing the masculine and the feminine here, that within having a level of structure for myself, it allowed for more flow as well.
My evening, my morning routine is imperative for me to set myself up for the day. And I can look different on a different day. But for me, is making sure that I'm having a really good healthy meal in the morning somewhere and making sure to move my body. That can look a lot of different ways, but as long as I'm doing those two things and then grounding myself before I jump into the
check off list or all the requirements of the day, it really helps me get grounded in the energy. So my morning routine is often looking like moving my body somehow, eating something really healthy to prepare myself, my brain, and then also grounding myself. That could look like meditation, tarot card reading, that could look like a hypnosis, like all the different things. It can just look differently, right, depending on where I am or what I'm feeling. My evening routine is definitely
something that's really important to me to wind down for just releasing what was happening for the day. So it could look like listening to meditative music. It could be meditating. It could be taking a hot bubble bath. It could be writing in my journal. It could be doing another tarot card reading.
I realized that while I was in Santa Fe that, my gosh, I thrive off of a structured system. And that means too, within the structured system, that I have room for flow in that. So that's where the feminine energy comes in. The creativity, right? Like creativity doesn't look the same every single day, creating my content. Maybe it could be painting, it could be.
taking a walk outside, it could be spending time in nature, like having that feminine flow energy is like really important to me as well. But it's because of creating this masculine foundational structure within my day that allows me to have this feminine security, which in essence is exactly how it is in a relationship. The masculine is there to create safety for
the feminine to be in her pure goddessness. That's a whole other podcast episode that I can talk to you about. But yes, that's what I've understood and realized that success is a continual process. once I commence a different type of lifestyle and I choose to settle down somewhere eventually, that will be readdressed again, right? I will continually to address how I can set up my day for success.
Okay, and that concludes my five lessons of the things that I've learned on my thus far nomadic lifestyle the last 90 days. I can't believe this episode was a lot longer than I anticipated. but I really hope that this brought a lot of value to you because these are lessons that I personally have learned, but I know that when you hear this or that you've heard this, that you can hear yourself
in these lessons as well and maybe have experienced some of the similar things, even though you may not be completely nomadic like I am. I really appreciate you being with me every single episode that you listen to. Your listenership, is so, valuable to me. I really, would love for you to share this episode with somebody if you know somebody that is completely nomadic or has gone through some of these experiences.
please, please make sure to share.
if you relate to anything that I've said, I would love for you to take a screenshot of the episode and share with me and your stories. Tag me at Sarita Wellness and let me know what was the most relatable to you in regards to some of the things that I've shared.
thank you so much for being here. We will see you in the next episode and it'll be a guest. Really excited to share that with you.
And as always, keep being the amazing you that you are. Take care.
