Sarita Buer (00:00)
Hello, beautiful soul and welcome back to my podcast back to here with Sarita the new manifesting paradigm podcast.
I'm very happy that you're here with me today.
going to be a very short episode.
I wanted to just mention that when this podcast episode releases, I'm officially 44 days into what I'm now calling my 52 week manifestation road trip. If you had not have a chance, please head over to social media because I do post very frequently.
and where I am, where I'm going, what I'm doing, all the things and the lessons that I'm learning along the way
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whole trip has really brought forth a lot for me. So this episode
where I'll be sharing with you the three reasons your ego is actually very obsessed with sabotaging your manifestations
really hits home for me because during this
I'm learning so much more about myself.
and realizing certain things, habits, behaviors, all the things that I was acting like while I was in the comfort zone in San Diego. And since I've left California,
am quite literally constructing my life as I go. And so I've had to really let go a lot of the ego. So everything that I'm going be sharing with you
is going to be really hitting home for me.
Hopefully it will help you in getting a lot more clear on where your ego is actually sabotaging you and your manifestations.
if you've been around for a little while, you will know the way that I construct my episodes here, the way that I teach in my social media, the way that I coach is actually sharing with you personal experiences that I'm going through and not necessarily talking to you, points where you need to focus and work on, right?
I'm here with you on this journey and I don't know everything about manifestation. I'm still learning, I'm still growing. And so what makes me really unique is that I'm sharing with you as I go some of the lessons that I'm personally learning when it comes to manifestation.
So these three points that I'll be sharing with you about the ego sabotaging
really, really hits home for me. And it's very present with me right now as I've made this very massive, massive transition in my life, quite literally constructing my life as I go,
living out of my car
and traveling from state to state.
before we start, I just wanted to touch very briefly on the ego and what it is. The ego is not a science-based term. It's actually a term that we have come to utilize to describe the part of us that is meant to keep us safe. The ego definitely has a place and it has a purpose.
And I think that in a lot of spiritual spaces and especially in some of the manifestation communities that I've been in,
and the coaching that I've seen, people still really demonize the ego and that should not be the case.
The ego is not a bad thing. In fact, it's something very, very necessary in our lives, especially when it comes to survival.
But like everything, there is a balance, right? So when the ego is taking over and trying to control our lives,
that is when it can become troublesome.
Think of the ego as a way to interpret the world around you, or your intuition, aka higher self,
is another way to interpret the world around you.
We can manifest from both depending on the voice that you're listening to. So it could either be the ego voice or it could be the higher self voice. I go a lot deeper in this during my bliss method program, which I'll be rolling out in a couple of months,
And the last point I want to make is the ego can also keep us playing small.
and keep us from changing.
And so the ego is really deeply tied
to sabotaging our manifestations. That voice that can step in and literally sabotage an experience without us even realizing it.
Okay, the first point I want to make about the ego is that the fear of change and unknown. So basically that's the first way the ego can really step in to sabotage your manifestations.
The ego really thrives on comfort and even when that comfort zone is in a very unfulfilling or stressful place, manifestation
change means stepping into unknown territory, which can be very intimidating. And that's where the ego steps in,
The ego sees this unknown territory, this unknown uncharted area
a โ possible threat.
And so in reaction to that, it can create a very self-sabotaging thought or action, which translates into an action to keep you in your
current location of safety.
Okay, so this lands really, really hardcore for me because one of the most grandiose epiphanies that I've had over the
44 days is I've realized
as I've transitioned
into this nomadic life
that I'm
literally creating
the life that I desire step by step for myself, this freedom lifestyle
where I'm living as a very sovereign woman, very self-reliant woman.
very against the grain of society.
is requiring me
to become a whole new version of myself. Meaning,
uncharted territory that I'm
stepping into
is requiring me to embody a whole new level of
the business that I'm creating and building to impact more women.
the money that I desire to make, the patience and the trust that it takes every single time when I leave a place
start looking for a new place to live, traveling in my car, going from state to
There's a lot of fear that I'm
regularly
of the unknown.
finding out where I'm going to stay next, constructing like a new
lifestyle in the place that I'm living.
it's really requiring me to work through fear of the unknown
knowing that
everything's going to work
to
highest
I'm being called
every single day
to walk through fear
and embody the change
that I'm experiencing.
all the while, while creating a new version of
Okay, so the second way the ego will really sabotage your manifestations is attaching itself
to limiting beliefs.
ego holds on to stories and beliefs about who we are
what we actually
So for example,
if you've been conditioned to believe
success and abundance and
isn't for you,
your ego will align
to actually create it
to be more difficult for you to accept
a different reality than
And that attachment, right? The ego attachment to these thoughts, to these beliefs
can sound like the voice that says something
to the effect
I'm not good
or
this won't work for me,
or keeping you quite literally from embracing
the things you actually desire in your
So this coincides heavily with what I was just talking
on me
much this past
that
as I was staring up at the ceiling and just having a moment with
that I was feeling
very unmotivated with
because I was reverting
to the belief
that I
I deserve
to lay around and do nothing
because
I work so hard or I've worked so hard in the past and I'm all deserving for this
And while
it's all good and well, and for you maybe this is something that you really do need. Maybe you do need to like lay around and do nothing. And it's okay to have those moments. That's not what I'm exactly conveying here.
what I'm saying is one of these old habits or beliefs that I've had,
is that
me
to actually
become and embody
the successful business owner that I desire to become,
get to honor
my responsibilities and create a successful foundation for
And so these old habits or beliefs where I deserve this, I deserve that, is the ego just reasoning with
saying,
I deserve to do this,
which really negates my responsibilities.
I personally need to have structures in place because I'm a very vision and goal oriented person.
I need to have structure and foundation into place for my success.
I've noticed when I've been laying around, laying at the, looking at the ceiling
and getting into the mindset,
know, I deserve this. Then I go into the next step of like, well,
I deserve this, but I also should be doing something
and commencing something or starting something or working on something. So it's definitely ego that's talking.
So I realize and recognized that the ego gets in the way
of that.
when I am
listening to higher self,
how yourself is communicating to me and sharing with me
we can utilize or I can utilize the ego to my benefit
to support me in constructing
a foundation
and schedule for myself
to set myself up for success.
So this may look way different for you, right? You may have the ego telling you, I need to keep be doing something and so I can't rest. So I'm just sharing with you my own personal limiting beliefs for myself when the ego comes into play.
For you, you can see where you can actually detach from old thinking to recognize and indicate places where your ego is talking too much or taking too much charge.
in those places that are keeping you small and keeping you
So the last point I want to make about how your ego is sabotaging your manifestations is the need for control and
Manifesting often requires us letting go. Actually, it really does require us letting go, trusting the process, surrendering to the higher flow of the process.
can feel very
destabilizing to our nervous system.
It can feel very destabilizing to our ego as well.
so our ego, because our ego is there to keep us safe, right? And when it's being safe, it's being protected and controlled.
And so when the ego feels like it's losing control,
possibly can throw in obstacles to distract you
from
fully invested in your manifestation process, meaning
That's when the self-sabotage comes in, that voice comes in saying, is this really possible? Am I really meant to do this? Is it, can I really surrender?
it ends up holding really tightly
the reins instead
surrendering and letting go to what is meant to happen.
So this one really sums it up for me.
I am a recovering
Anybody else?
It has been
in the last three years and pretty much the lifetime of this podcast
that I have realized
how much
I was controlling my
outcomes, trying to control the people around me.
trying to control the thoughts of the other people around me just so I could avoid getting judged
and essentially
so I could avoid getting hurt.
So naturally, if I was trying or if I've been trying for a long time to control my environment around me,
really leaked into my trust in manifestation. Oftentimes in the past
before recognizing that I have controller
is that I didn't feel safe manifesting or surrendering, even though I would
coaches and teachers tell me, surrender.
and trust the process.
I felt like they didn't fully understand why I wasn't able to do so because I've had such a history of trying to control the outcome, the environment, and the people around me.
Well, now I know how much the ego has been playing in this part, this part of the story of why I haven't been able to let go.
a lot of it
has stemmed from my prior experiences of feeling more safe when I'm actually in control.
So how it's impacting me in present day is I've noticed that it's sometimes easier to slip back into old patterns and habits
than to actually address the obstacle that's in place or distraction that's arising, that's coming from my ego,
literally reasoning with myself
and telling me,
โ you're okay doing the thing that you're doing, you're fine
versus actually
addressing the underlying causation
belief behind it.
Okay, so that about sums it up of the three reasons why your ego is obsessed with sabotaging your manifestations.
And I find it really interesting how right now that all of this is just so prevalent with me
as I've made this 52 week commitment to manifest my way across the United States and live nomadically.
is conveyed on social media, looks like it's all fun and travel.
to be honest with you, as I'm a very, very honest person within this podcast and as much as I can on my social media,
I share with you how
I'm really being forced to confront
a lot of the parts of me that I realize that I was heavily avoiding in the comfort of my home, in the
of my every day in San Diego.
And one thing I really want to point out to you that's really, really important when it comes to listening to these episodes within the podcast is having the knowledge about something and actually doing something with the knowledge are two different things.
So essentially you can come up with some of the realizations or indicators that the ego is really ruling your life.
But
Taking that knowledge and actually doing something with it to attempt to move the needle forward is something that is your responsibility, right? It's not something I can do for you, but I can help you get to the place where you can have more enlightenment and understanding on certain patterns and behaviors of yourself. And then it's your responsibility to make those changes.
So I hope this awareness from this episode gave you some insight and heightening exactly where you are in regards to your journey with your ego.
And I really hope that the knowledge that you
have received from this episode, as short as it has been,
you can take that knowledge and alchemize it
to help
change
your circumstances and move the needle forward for yourself.
Okay, love that about wraps up this episode.
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Always love being with you, my love. Have a great rest of your day.
And as always, keeping the amazing you that you are. We'll see you next time.
